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Why Fear Should Be Your Best Frenemy

My arms were completely fatigued. I could hardly hold myself up much longer, but the realization of being 2 steps away from finishing the course, while suspended 60 feet in the air, meant that I could give up now…so close to the end, or push through and revel in the accomplishment.Why Fear should Be Your Best Frenemy

I looked up at my boyfriend and said, “I don’t think I can do this. That rope is higher than my reach and I’m going to fall.” He said, “you can do it, get swinging a little bit and just go for it. I know you can do it.”

My knees started to give way. Damn, my whole body was giving up on me. I took a deep breath, got the free swinging log that I was standing on to swing forward once… forward twice… okay .. third time I’m going for that rope… aaand third swing, I lept from log, grabbed the rope, stepped on the final log and made it to the platform.

Phew. I had just completed the “black level” course at the Adirondack Extreme Adventure Course. This was the most challenging level, one that some of the staff admitted to not being able to do.

Now, the only thing left to do was zip line to the finish.

I made it.

I overcame my fear and full body fatigue. I talked myself through it and daaaang did it feel good. By the time I was back on the ground my hands were shaking with adrenaline. I didn’t let myself down. It. Felt. Awesome.

I’ve had these feelings before: extreme overwhelm, mental and physical fatigue. They usually arrive on the cusp of a big challenge or something that’s simply outside of my comfort zone.

Most recently (aside from the Adirondack Extreme), it was when I signed up for Rich, Happy, & Hot B School. The program is way out of my price range but I knew that it would be a game changer for me. So, upon submission of payment 1/3 I cried. Yup. Streaming tears because I was so afraid of not being able to afford rent and utilities. But I found a way to manage. I pinched pennies and somehow created new income streams. I made it work because I wanted it to.

Fear has become my hero.

When fear presents itself I now know that whatever it is that I’m fearful of is worth fighting for.

I’ve learned to embrace fear. To rope it in and to utilize it in a way that makes me stronger. When I feel fear creeping in I say, “bring it on, baby! Make my day.”

Now,  fear works for me rather than against me.

Fear has played a particularly large role in my upcoming trip too. Family is worried about my safety and loneliness. Friends wonder how I’ll make it financially. And while their concerns should create a ginormous ball of fear in my belly, it only fuels my desire to show them that it can be done. That I can achieve this dream, pursue this passion, and that I’ll make it work. No matter what.

Thank you fear, for helping to guide me and to make me a stronger, more passionate, and driven person today than I was yesterday.

What’s your strategy for overcoming fear and making it work for you?

Check out this vid from my day on the Adventure Course. It was so, so, so much fun!



  1. Meredith

    I couldn’t agree more. It seems the only way to overcome fear is to just jump right in. Right now, I am on a volunteer trip to Costa Rica. It was scary for me as it is the first time I have traveled outside the country without family, but it has been an amazing experience so far and something I am so glad I did. If fear holds you back, it can turn into missed opportunities and regret. I hope no one lets fear stop them from going for what they want in life.

    • Beautiful sentiments Meredith. Thanks so much! :)

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